October 23, 2013 by Colin Kelly
I’ve just written a Facebook status update about a group of women I know.
If they were male I’d have written: ‘These guys really know what they’re doing.’
It’s an informal post, where I’m praising them for something they’ve done on social media.
So ‘guys’ seems about right.
But I didn’t feel right using that word to describe 3 women. Even though the greeter in TGI Friday’s says ‘hi guys’ when they’re talking to a mixed group, I don’t think it’s quite right for me to use ‘guys’ when I’m talking about ‘girls’.
But I don’t feel right using ‘girls’ either because, well they’re not girls. They’re women in their late 20s/early 30s that have families and run a very successful business.
‘Girls’ seems to belittle them.
But ‘women’ is overly formal and ‘young women’ (which I did end up calling them)..well, now I feel like a policeman giving a statement in court.
And I didn’t use ‘ladies’ because that makes me feel like I’m organising a Cheese and Wine night.
Female friends of mine – how do you like to be described?